“It’s Just An Uphill Stretch.” My Mantra During The Newborn Days

“It’s Just An Uphill Stretch.” My Mantra During The Newborn Days

Maybe your newborn sleeps. Maybe your newborn doesn’t sleep. Maybe you’re struggling playing the formula game and trying to find one that your little one’s tummy can handle. Maybe you feel as though you have become a dairy cow and your baby is nursing constantly.

Perhaps you’re currently running on three hours of sleep. You might be the woman standing in front of the mirror, holding back tears, wondering if you’ll ever get back into shape (even though you know deep down inside it’s only been about two weeks since you housed a human).

Regardless of where you’re at, know this: It’s just an uphill stretch.

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I Pledge Not To Provide “Updates” On Postpartum Weight Loss, and This Photo Explains Why

I Pledge Not To Provide “Updates” On Postpartum Weight Loss, and This Photo Explains Why

So, I’ll come right out and say it: I see a lot of women post “updates” about where they are in their postpartum weight loss journey. I respect these journeys; they are not easy. I realize that posting about it on social media can be therapeutic.

I also realize how detrimental it can be. It can turn into something unhealthy and you may not even realize it. I became obsessed with losing weight after my last pregnancy. I mean obsessed. I tried things that weren’t crazy; things that were crazy – and honestly, it didn’t matter that I hung on to ten extra pounds because I looked fantastic. Funny how you can look back and think, “Wow, I was really hard on myself. That was stupid.”

I always knew that numbers on the scale could be misleading, but the photo below confirms that.

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This is me at about 39 weeks last pregnancy and this pregnancy. I weight the same. I’ve gained 53 lbs just like I didn’t last time despite logging over 300 pregnancy miles this pregnancy as oppose to doing absolutely nothing last pregnancy. This comparison should make you giggle – my face doesn’t even look the same, but the number on the scale sure does.

See, here’s the thing: Scales are fucking dumb. Women are fucking amazing, though.

I updated my followers constantly about my post-pregnancy weight after my daughter was born in 2014. Comparison photos, updates on the numbers, etc. This time, you won’t be seeing these posts.

You won’t be seeing side-by-side photos of me. You won’t know what the number on the scale says. You won’t see me say much about my weight at all, if anything. I’m way more than a number on a scale. I’m a (soon to be) mom of three, a pretty cool and chill wife, a distance runner, a race director, and I can cook a pot of sauce that will knock people off their feet. Tell me again why a number on the scale should define me…?

Don’t get me wrong. I look forward to working hard, getting back into running at my normal pace, and achieving post-pregnancy weight loss. But this will not, absolutely not, be the focus of my life for a year or more again.

I 100% pledge not to post these updates. I want to encourage you to define yourself to the world with something else other than losing weight. The world needs to see you for the awesome person that you are, not that you lost thirty pounds after you had a child. Sorry, but it’s true – you’re way more than a number on the scale or an arbitrary timeline that shows just how quickly you lost baby weight.

It’s important to be healthy for you, your family, and your children. It’s not important to let a number on a scale define what healthy is for you. Remember that. Good health > numbers on a scale society deems as “normal.”

You’re awesome. I’m awesome. That’s enough.

About That Whole VBAC Thing

About That Whole VBAC Thing

Yesterday, I got a lot of messages/comments about the c-section that is very likely in my future. I mentioned that if I don’t make any progress by Thursday, we will schedule it for early next week. I realized that many people may not know how my hospital and medical team roll, so I figured I’d answer some questions.

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An Open Letter To The Woman Who Gave Me Shitass “Advice” On A Mom-To-Be Message Board

An Open Letter To The Woman Who Gave Me Shitass “Advice” On A Mom-To-Be Message Board

Let me preface this: I have never been a fan of “mommy groups.” I have always been a fan of empowering moms to have confidence and take care of themselves. The two are not interchangeable.

Why don’t I care for them? I just don’t fit in with the whole “mommy group” crowd. No, I don’t want to sit around and talk about how I asked my husband to do “just one thing today” and he didn’t do it (followed by a sip of my iced macchiato, no whip, skim). I really don’t want to eat ice cream out of a tub and profess how I refuse to have sex with my husband for a week because he didn’t pick up a gallon of milk like I asked him to.

I don’t want to talk about Suzie’s cough. I don’t feel like discussing the dust on my ceiling fan and how it drives me insane. Please don’t invite me over for premixed “low carb” cocktails (get some Bombay Sapphire and lighten the fuck up).

Nope. Just not my style.

Last night, however, I decided to give some mommy chat a try. I immediately realized why I don’t post in these groups, and here is a heartfelt letter to the person who so kindly reminded me of why I loath these message boards.

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Affirmations For Pregnant Mamas #OnTheRun

Affirmations For Pregnant Mamas #OnTheRun

I am exactly 38 weeks pregnant today, and I began my day running 5K (3.1 miles). I’ve continued to run 2-3 days per week through my entire pregnancy, and I am extremely proud of how I’ve sharpened my mental state to keep that up!

It hasn’t been an easy journey (and I don’t think it is for any woman) to run while pregnant. For a small period, I was considered high risk due to polyhydramnios and had an even BIGGER belly than usual, so running became even tougher. My ability to keep going is a direct result of my mental state rather than my physical state.

I’ve put together some affirmations that have helped me continue running through pregnancy, and hopefully you find them helpful as well.

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