I’ve been focused on contentment, giving, and self-care lately (you can see a glimpse of this in my last post). I’m working to find contentment in each stage of life and to be thankful that I am here another day. God didn’t create us to be miserable complainers, so I am working on finding joy vs. finding things to criticize.
Part of that journey means assessing some of the bickering and arguing that goes on in my house. In five years, is it going to matter that the cereal bag wasn’t closed correctly? Is it going to stick out in my head that my husband forgot to put a bag in the trash? Am I going to be scarred for life replaying all the times I picked up clutter that probably didn’t result from me…? No, not really.
So, I’ve decided to give up on a few arguments with my kids that seem pretty pointless. As a first time mom, I harped on these over and over. Now that I am on kid #3, I’ve become a lot more laid back.
Here are five arguments that, going forward, I refused to have with my kids.
Recently, I decided that I wanted to start being a little more adventurous and doing things that seem like a “hassle” to me. In other words, I want to start traveling a little bit more. Those who know me understand that traveling is not my thing at all. I’ve been a handful of places and if taking a trip means schedule alterations, I’d rather skip it (no joke).
That really isn’t a way to live, though – especially according to my husband who would live out of a suitcase if I agreed to it.
I’m starting small. This weekend, I went to Detroit (about 3.5 hour drive) overnight with my husband, four year old, and seven week old. It seemed daunting, so I figured that was a good reason to do it!
Agreeing to travel more doesn’t mean I am suddenly a plane-hopper who has no worries and effortlessly baby-wears all over the damn world.
It means I find ways to manage traveling with kids. I know I’m not the only one who feels overwhelmed at the thought of shlepping kids around, even if it’s just to Target (what about feeding time? what about nap time? what about the temp outside – what do I put on them? It’s going to be 54 degrees when we go to Target that’s five minutes away, but 62 when we leave in the hour time limit I am imposing on us – what’s best? ANSWER ME we are losing time on the hour I set aside for this!).
Here are some tips based on what I learned about car trips with kids when you are determined to have everything go as planned.